After some arguing with people (and by ‘arguing” i mean being told with no evidence certain things)
I really, really want to know
why people get so defensive of straight Dean. Why does it bother you so much that other people read him as not straight? Why does the fact that he’s attracted to women make every other possibility on the spectrum impossible for you? Why are you so against subtext? Or is it just a way for you to insist that my ship will never happen and it’s really not about his sexuality at all in the first place?
shit // x
I kind of like to think that this is Dean from an AU - like the assassin Dean from my Destiel AU, all lethal and charming like that
another lame attempt to try to ‘make’ Dean Winchester straight. Dean is clearly not ready for a relationship. HE JUST BECAME A DEMON FOR CHRISTS SAKE.
I don’t agree that it’s an attempt to “make Dean straight” because he’s already been…
Oh, Dean gets a love interest again? Why? When are they going to learn that we’re not interested? We don’t care? We don’t want some undeveloped, 1-dimensional ‘love interest’ that Dean only likes because the script says he does, who likely ends up dead? Why does this show script a romance and an “I love you” between two characters and then throw in random love interests that we never end up hearing from again? Why is this world so full of heteronormative crap?
Dean Winchester - costumes
I don’t understand why John Winchester gets so much hate. Like, I get that he wasn’t a perfect father, but let’s be real. Who is? He really did love his boys, and everything he did was in their interest. Giving Dean such a hard time, and always on the run, trying to keep Sam…
No one will be upset if you do, honestly I would love to hear it.
okay well I will try to keep this short because otherwise it’ll turn into a dissertation
the thing is, John Winchester was emotionally abusive. And you can explain away a lot of the things he did - he taught Sam and Dean to defend themselves because he knew what was out there. He was preparing them. He sacrificed his soul for Dean in the end. Great.
He was still emotionally abusive in a way he didn’t need to be. Other people have talked about this a lot, so I’m gonna go for the short version
1. he made Dean responsible for Sam. This is both abusive to Sam (in depriving him of any kind of parental figure) and to Dean, by placing that much responsibility on him at the AGE OF FOUR and making him feel constantly worthless through that responsibility. Sure, to some extent he was trying to prepare sam and Dean for what’s out there - which is why he took them on hunts, blah, blah, blah. Preparing them for what’s out there doesn’t mean that he has to make Dean responsible for Sam while he leaves for DAYS to hunt some supernatural creature that’s in a different STATE. John was obsessed with his vendetta, and he made Dean responsible for Sam so he could chase that vendetta.
2. Dean’s self worth, self-confidence, and related issues - again, which come from being responsible for Sam all the time, being told he’s only good enough to be a hunter/soldier, that he’s worthless unless his brother is safe, etc. John is the one who taught Dean that his self-worth comes from his ability to look after Sam - which is the reason Dean sold his soul, started the Apocalypse, and in general has been hating himself since season 1. John is the sort of Dean and Sam’s codependency, and the person it’s hurt the most is Dean.
3. From what you’ve seen of John, does he seem like a supportive father? And I’m not talking about John preparing Sam and Dean for what’s out there. I’m talking about John disowning Sam for going to college. I’m talking about John telling Dean the Impala looks terrible when it looks shiny and perfect and new. I’m talking about that scene where Dean went outside to PLAY A VIDEO GAME for 10 minutes because he was, like, 8, and John essentially ostracized him after that - refusing to explain what he did wrong, refusing to acknowledge that Dean was a child, and quite obviously choosing Sam over Dean. That kind of “you’re not good enough, you need to do better, why didn’t you do this, you made a mistake and yo’ure a fuckup” leads to lots of mental issues. Trust me. I know. I’ve been through my share of that crap. It doesn’t end well.
4. Do I need to go into how there’s a different between protecting his sons and a personal vendetta? For John, I think the line got very blurred - and any child who’s lost one parent and is neglected by another for the sake of a vendetta is going to end up with lots and lots of issues.
5. all the moving around and never fitting in had to have developmental issues and self-esteem and identity issues, but perhaps that couldn’t be helped.
6. Diet and nutrition. In flashbacks, we’ve seen the boys eating cereal for dinner. We’ve seen, I think, John leaving money for them. Do you really think that, as growing boys, they got all the nutrition they needed when John just left them money and left? Do you think an 8 year old can make the proper decisions about the kind of diet boys need to grow? No, obviously not - which is probably why they were having cereal. For dinner. Plus, considering John was always gone - how often do you think money ran out? In seaon 5, someone asked Dean if he’s been “haven’t eaten in days hungry.” He said yes. I wonder why? Maybe because John didnt’ leave them enough money? Maybe because they only had enough to feed one person and Dean gave the food to Sam? There’s a lot of evidence in the show that Dean has some kind of eating disorder and that he’s starved in the past. Huh. I wonder if that has anything to do with John’s obvious neglect, never being home to care for and feed his sons, and them likely going hungry because they’re fucking kids.
6. All of Dean’s issues about not being his own person, about his music and his car and his leather jacket being dad’s - that likely comes from Dean trying so, so hard to live up to being John, to be good enough - and constantly failing, because it’s an impossible standard. Again, as someone who had parents who constantly had impossible standards I was supposed to live up to and punishing me for failing….the mental consequences suck. Dena has no self-worth. Dean has no sense of identity - or at least one that he can believe in. Because he was always trying to be John and never good enough for John.
7. I”m gonna end with an emphasis that abuse can be mental/psychological and that shit is as bad as being beaten and there’s plenty of evidence John Winchester abused his sons about as much as he prepared them for what’s out there.
Okay. Rant over.
WTF? Why am I just seeing this now?
Video credit Codra Foymal on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=npXG_R7IZRI
Everybody should watch this, because it’s brilliant
Including the Cas/Colette parallels (they are so spectacularly there just wow)
I will never get tired of giffing this… sweet jeezus!!
my favourite freckles are eye freckles (✿◠‿◠)
and did I mention - FRECKLESSSS!?
Greetings, fellow Dean stans. As we all know, season 9 was extremely hard for Dean, but also very important for his character. Inspired by other events such as x and x we decided to dedicate a week to appreciate Dean in this season.
How does this work and how can you join? We will give you a list of prompts for each day during a week, and you can make edits, gifsets, fanmixes, fanfiction, etc according to each theme. Ready?
- Start: June 9th
- Finish: June 15th
Day 1 (June 9th): Favorite episode
Day 2 (June 10th): Best brotherly/friendship moment
Day 3 (June 11th): Best happy!Dean moment
Day 4 (June 12th): Most heartbreaking scene
Day 5 (June 13th): Favorite badass moment
Day 6 (June 14th): Overall favorite Dean moment
Day 7 (June 15th): Free choice (post whatever you want)
Remember to tag your entries with #ds9aw and we will reblog them (post your work and your work only!). Reblog to spread the word, and have fun! :)
- Cat & Belle
yes yes yes this!
John Barrowman singing “All Out of Life”
or, if you’d like to look at it this way, pansexual Captain Jack Harkness singing a romantic song that, in season 7, Dean Winchester sang a couple of episodes after he lost Cas (and to which he totally rocked out).
Ah, don’t you just love these sorts of connections?
JFC Jensen stop!!!
More obscenity. Then again, we knew this was a NSFW blog.
There’s this problem where whenever Dean starts to get more evil and dark
Jensen Ackles just gets 100000 times hotter
and it’s a problem because you know Dean is going bad places
But he’s just so fucking hot
I wanna talk about Ben for a second.
I think nearly everyone in the spn fandom agrees that Ben is Dean’s biological son. The only stumbling block to this is the fact that Lisa…explicitly told Dean Ben is not his son.
And here’s why I think that’s a complete lie.
The first time Dean asks if Ben is his (right after he does the math and realizes Ben could be his son) is approximately five minutes after walking back into Lisa Braeden’s life. Dean had been gone for 8+ years—heck he was just a fling to start, and suddenly he shows up again. Lisa and Ben have their life figured out. They live perfectly well with the family dynamic they have. Lisa doesn’t know Dean. Lisa has no connection to Dean. Imagine if she did tell Dean Ben was his son: child support, visiting arguments, heck maybe even custody battles. Who knows what kind of man Dean is? What sane person would risk uprooting her entire life (along with her son’s) by dropping a bombshell like that on a man she hadn’t seen in almost 9 years?
Second—Lisa tells Dean that Ben is the son of some biker fling she had. She says this with certainty. But honestly, why would she know this? It didn’t sound like this biker guy was involved in her life. Maybe Lisa tracked him down again at some bar a month later and said, “Hey pal, wanna take a ride to the doctor’s office for a paternity test?” This wasn’t a boyfriend, wasn’t a relationship. I have trouble believing she even knew the guy well enough to find him again after the month or so it takes to realize you’re pregnant.
To me, the biker story sounds like a very easy escape from Dean. I mean he’s still this random guy who showed up again in her life, and even though they bond, even though he saves Ben, Lisa now realizes Dean Winchester leads a very, very dangerous life. Dean’s a nomadic, mentally damaged, monster-killer. At this point, it would make even less sense to tether him with the fact that he has a son (even though Lisa obviously cares for him at this point).
Dean vanishes after that. The next time she sees him is when he shows up at her door half-crazed talking about how he’ll bargain for her safety when he sacrifices himself. This is a man who lives in a world of monsters, but Lisa cares enough to try to at least help him. However much Dean eventually tells her about his life, Lisa’s got to know he’s always hiding more. She’s got to know there are insanely powerful things out there that want Dean dead, things Dean has to bargain with his own life to protect her from.
The next time he appears, it’s immediately after Sam dies. Dean is a wreck, but he’s also (possibly) out of the hunter life. So Lisa lets him in, he becomes a father, a husband, but never legally. I doubt Lisa and Dean ever talked once about marriage. Why? Because in the back of her head Lisa knew she needed to constantly be ready to let Dean go if and when his past caught up to him. How do you make that possible? One—you never marry the guy. Two—you never honestly tell him the kid he’s caring for is his son. If Dean knew Ben was biologically his, imagine how much harder it would be for him to pack his bags and vanish when he needed to.
Lo and behold, Sam returns. Dean’s flesh and blood family. And what does Dean do? He takes off with Sam—because it’s dangerous for Ben and Lisa, because his own demons have caught up to them. It’s hard, but Dean manages to leave them. In truth what was he all along but a surrogate dad? Never really a part of the family.
Imagine the kind of shit Dean confided in Lisa after a year together. In the episode where Dean was cursed and people were forced to tell him the truth, Lisa admits she knew from the second Sam returned that it was over between them. Because she knows how messed up Dean is about family. She talks about being close to her sister, but how she’d never, out of desperation, raise her sister from the dead. Being family-family with Dean is a very dangerous game—a messed up game that ends in blood and tears and deals with the devil, and Lisa’s got to be afraid of that.
All of this evidence is ignoring the fact that 1—Ben looks A LOT like Dean. 2—Ben acts like Dean. 3—Ben even likes Dean’s music.
Finally, imagine how hard it would be (especially as time goes on) for Lisa to pull Dean aside one day and tell him “Hey I lied to you. Ben’s actually your son.” She knows Dean would be hurt that she lied, that she has kept very important information from him, that she was clearly trying to distance herself and Ben from him. For the right reasons or not, it would be hard to work up the nerve at any point to tell Dean the truth.
In summary—Lisa had no reason to tell the man, who just walked back into her life, who she knows nothing about, that he’s the father of her child. She has no reason to upset her and Ben’s family dynamic. She then had even less reason after she learned Dean hunts monsters for a living. How would she know with certainty the biker was the father? How easy is it to track down a one-time fling a month later and make him take a paternity test if child support was never an issue? Even after Dean came to live with them, Lisa could not tether Dean to them. No marriage and no biological kid mean the best situation for Dean to be able to take off when he needs to. Being family with Dean Winchester is a terrible risk to take. And if you’re actually flesh and blood, you’ll never get away entirely.
#I also have a personal headcanonthat at some point in that year #Dean took Ben to get a physical #probably for school sports #and he asked the nurse for a paternity test as well #but when it arrived Dean didnt have the nerve to open it #he kept it in the glove compartment of the impala #ignoring it for more than a year #until the day he made Cas wipe Lisa and Ben’s memories #he went out to the car right after that #tore open the letter #and cried alone in the driver seat of the impala until Sam came to get him (via phantomrose96)
I think we found Satan
This is the best post.
"you choose your favourite character because they remind you of yourself"
Lost and found.
I think this might be the moment at which I realized how terrifying, utterly terrifying, Dean is because of the monster he turned into out of THE SHEER POWER OF LOVE.
I mean, he’s motherfucking scary - so motherfucking scary even the monsters are scared.
BECAUSE HE LOVES CAS.
It’s like this beautiful paradox, that love is able to bring out the darkest, most evil, most twisted parts out in him - and he feels completely at ease with them. Completely pure.
do you ever just connect with that one fictional character even though your life is nothing like theirs somehow you just understand them completely and get what they’re going through